Steps to Unlearning

Steps to Unlearning is a framework, a practice, and a movement.

It helps people gently examine the beliefs, habits, and patterns they’ve inherited from dominant culture and replace them with more human, honest, and sustainable ways of living, working, and relating.

This isn’t self-help. It’s collective care.

It’s softening what’s been hardened in us.

It’s shifting from survival patterns to life-affirming practices.

It’s about remembering who we are before the world told us who to be.

Why Unlearning?

Why Now?

We’ve been taught to strive, prove, perfect, and perform.

To measure worth by productivity.

To silence discomfort.

To fear rest, emotion, slowness, and failure.

These patterns helped us survive, but they’re not helping us thrive.

Meanwhile, the world is shifting. Burnout, disillusionment, and a sense that “business as usual” is broken are everywhere. The systems we’ve inherited — built on extraction, urgency, and fear — are failing.

Unlearning is how we let go of what no longer serves us and create space for something better: cultures of care, belonging, and resilience.

The Steps to Unlearning offers a roadmap for this transformation — not through quick fixes, but through courageous reflection, community, and practice.

Who This Is For

For those longing for something more human, more whole

• You’re tired of burnout, perfectionism, and the pressure to always perform

• You’re navigating a life or work transition and questioning old stories

• You’re a leader, facilitator, educator, or systems thinker seeking change that sticks

• You want to create cultures grounded in care — not control

• You believe another way of working and living is possible

If this resonates, you’re in the right place.

Unlearning Circles Begin in September

Small, guided sessions for deep reflection and collective care.

Evidence-informed frameworks

Our approach draws on research in emotional intelligence, trauma recovery, systems thinking, and mindfulness to guide meaningful change.

Accessible pricing

We offer sliding-scale options to make participation possible for people at different financial levels, because unlearning should be available to everyone.

Safe, nonjudgmental space

Every Circle is designed for honesty, reflection, and belonging—where you can show up as your whole self without fear of judgment.

The Six Phases & 12 Steps of Unlearning

Understanding how we’ve been shaped by dominant culture and beginning to turn inward.

Moving from isolation to shared understanding through truth-telling and release.

4. Living Into New Possibilities

5. Rebuilding Relationships & Resilience

Practicing new behaviors, repairing relationships, and reclaiming connections.

2. Making the Invisible Visible

Taking an honest inventory and speaking truth to what we’ve internalized.

3. Breaking the Silence

Creating better relationships and reflection as part of a sustainable change practice.

6. Rooting in Purpose, Leading by Example

Aligning with our deeper purpose and letting our lives reflect what we’ve unlearned.

1. Awakening: Name the cultural conditioning you’ve absorbed

2. Orientation: Open to a greater source of wisdom or purpose

3. Discernment: Choose to let go of inherited scripts

4. Inquiry: Take an honest inventory of beliefs and behaviors

5. Truth-Telling: Speak what’s been hidden, to self and others

6. Releasing: Loosen the grip of fear and control

1: Seeing the Waters We Swim In

7. Embodying: Practice new ways of being rooted in trust and care

8. Repair: Own your impact and make amends

9. Relating: Cultivate mutuality and emotional honesty

10. Integration: Reflect, adapt, and grow

11. Alignment: Stay connected to your deeper purpose

12. Service: Live your practice out loud: Live your practice out loud

What We’re Building

Storytelling Project

A collaborative storytelling project about the Steps to Unlearning

Unlearning Circles

A series of Unlearning Circles for community reflection and practice

A set of talks, toolkits, & resources for individuals, teams, and change makers

Talks & Resources

Coming Soon!

Coming Soon!

Be Part of the Journey

We’re co-creating this work with care, intention, and openness.

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